I call this practice, Big Heart Space:
When my son is crying and my shoulders round in, my heart begins to ache and I want to make it better. Then I remind myself to hold a big heart space for him. So I take a deep breath and I open my shoulders and I open my heart. I hold him tight and send him lots of love. I don’t try to fix it, I just allow space for him to have his experience and I hold a state of openness, calmness, peace and love. I open MY HEART in a BIG way! Then I give him a loving smile of compassion. So much better than caving in my shoulders, closing my heart and trying to fix it all. Enjoy this Big Heart Practice! It can work with anyone.
This is a mindfulness practice that brings me back to the present moment. The only moment we really have. I like to practice mindfulness as many times throughout the day as I can remember. When I find myself tense while doing dishes and thinking about what I would rather be doing, then I look out the window, take a deep breath, and try to relax and deeply enjoy the process. Same when cooking. I often get in a rush and I will feel tension in my mid back, drop things, bang myself, etc. These are all signs to me that I need to slow things way way down. A learning process that is well worth the journey.